I’m going to talk about the kind of women I like and motivation hustle. No, no, no – this is not an eHarmony or Match.com episode, not at all. By the way, kudos and thank you very much to Trishia and Julie for urging me to do this episode. I had these discussions, saying this was going to be a future episode, and they said they were really anxious to hear it, so here goes.
What I’m talking about is women, as we’re talking about women going into business, being entrepreneurs, entrepreneurial, success-oriented, driven, etc. There’s a lot of things that happen in a woman’s life that’s a little different than a guy’s. In particular, first, many, many women will start out, and as they enter college, you’ll notice a difference. Go to any college, if somebody wants to argue with me over this, just go to any university, and you’ll see the engineering courses, the ECS electrical engineering computer science, computer science, mathematics, etc. – the statistics are filled with guys. Generally, the women have a much larger majority in the things, whether it be arts, sociology, social work, etc., that feel-good. The key difference they found it in colleges, is that guys tend to pick things that are going to earn them more money later on. Women tend to pick things that feel better or feel good. By the way, before you send me anything, I know this is not universal, it’s not everybody, but it is very largely biased towards those two categories.
What happens? Many of the factors—and this is actually kind of crazy—many of the factors are because women are thinking more in terms of both marriage, even though they may not admit it. They realize marriage, family, etc. is going to lead to somebody else, the husband, etc. taking the major role for income. They’re more geared towards other things. I thought this changed about 40 years ago, but apparently it hasn’t a great deal.
Actually, when you think about this, this is absolutely crazy, because here, if 50% of marriages fail and the mother usually—I should say almost always—has custody of the kids – Hell! It’s much more important for the women to pick those higher-paying careers with a greater return on the college degree. They should be concerned about that when they’re younger.
Here’s what happens when eventually the families are formed and that case, which I would like to say is unlikely, but where somebody is divorced. This ends up, in some cases, leading to superstar women. But first let me explain that. When there’s a divorce… I’m going to break down what happens to women into three categories. One of which is, and you’ve all seen these women who are absolutely decimated. They spend their time whining and complaining, etc. Unfortunately, there’s too many people that help enable that.
A middle category is a category of women who are trying to constantly balance having some income or as much income as they can, taking care of their kids, and being at all of the events, and everything else. Unfortunately, those also have a lot holding them back, because of taking care of the kids and all of the other things that are involved, but they’re doing as much as they can.
There’s a third category of women who comes into a whole different drive, and in here is what I really have as the purpose for this episode. There are really two purposes. One for business owners anywhere to help identify the women who are really just absolutely wonderful to have to work with, etc., those are the women I like. The second purpose is a signal to the women to realize and reflect a little bit on some of the choices that are around you. Now, I’m not here to paint any pretty pictures. I just want to help and see people succeed.
This third category of women is what I would refer to as a new immigrant class. That is: She stands there, usually setting up her own business of some kind, and she will not let that fail. She will not let anything happen, because she is proud over her family. She’s going to take care, and see that they are taken care of the best she can possibly do, driving and making sure that there’s success in her family’s life.
Generally, this certain group of women has almost, seemingly, unlimited drive and hunger to push harder for her family than almost anybody else. That’s why I refer to it as the new immigrant class. This is like the immigrant that comes from overseas, sees the opportunity here, and grabs it. They see their child’s future as dependent on their success, and they will not let anything stand in the way of their goal – that’s success. That’s why I say these women will succeed, and will identify.
If you’re another woman in another category, find out and watch these women. Model yourself after them, copy them. Remember that episode on copy well, copy what others are doing it, find out how they’re doing it, and get yourself around people who have that positive motivation that I talked about on the last episode, and keep those people, those inspirational, motivational people around you that have the positive attitude, and move away from the enablers who are just telling you: “Yes, I know how you feel. Oh, yes, that’s so sad.” Sad doesn’t do it for you. Find a way to get into one of the other two categories.
Over time, I have seen many different women in this third class that I’m referring to as a new immigrant class, that absolutely are driven, and they are not going to let anything stand in the way of the success of their kids, no matter what happened to their marriage. That is what I call motivation hustle.
Thank you very much. Hopefully Trishia and Julie, this is what you wanted.